Wednesday, December 19, 2007

The Cats Are Out of the Bag

Well, I haven't posted for a while because I've been sick. I had the flu Monday and Tuesday- a natural reaction to the domino effect started by Mr. Yuke 2 weeks ago which is still finishing up with the last family members right now. Cleaning up the puke and diarrhea has kept me too busy to blog. (Sorry if that grosses you out.) I've been wondering WHY we spent the money and the time and the aggravation to go get those stupid flu shots. AND, I've had morning sickness for the last three weeks as well.

Yup. That's right. Husband looked at me and now I'm pregnant. Again. It's a good thing and I have been excited (between the bouts of nausea and exhaustion). Until yesterday.

Husband and I thought it would be a fun joke not to tell our families about the baby. We thought that it would be hilarious to just show up next time we see them either with me all huge and say that WW is not working for me, or with an extra kid in tow and say, "What are you talking about? We've always had this many." Besides the fact that it would be funny, it would spare me an extra 10 months of disparraging remarks from my grandparents, and the general strain-to-approve from the rest of the family. Don't get me wrong. A lot of them try really hard to be supportive. It's just that having a big family goes against everything the media has been telling them their whole lives. (For those of you who think having many children is irresponsible, I refer you to this article. We have never needed financial assistance from either our church or the government and our kids are all happy and well adjusted.)

So getting to yesterday. I went in for my ultrasound to find out my due date. Being a person not blessed with a regular cycle, I never know how far along I am. By normal indicators, I should have been 8 weeks, 4 days. The babies actually measured 6 weeks, 1 day. Yes. I said "Babies". Well, yay! That's so exciting in a terrifying roller coaster-ish sort of way. Except that the ultrasound did not have good news. There actually weren't any "babies" at all. I had two beautiful gestational sacs which appeared to be empty. This means that although they COULD be ok, there is a higher probability that I am going to lose them both. I have another ultrasound on the 28th to check for babies. We decided last night that our plan to keep the pregnancy under wraps was not going to work, given the circumstances. Even if the babies end up being fine next week, there are so many things that can go wrong with twin pregnancies that we felt our families needed to know. That way, we won't be calling them up when I am 6 months along and saying, "Baby B is dying from Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome." or some other horrid thing like that out of the blue.

My whole life I've wanted 8 children and I hate being pregnant so much that having these babies be healthy, normal twins would be the perfect ending to our family. I want them and I am hoping that they will be ok. I am afraid to be excited. I would appreciate any prayers on our behalf. Whatever happens, "His eye is on the sparrow[s] and I know He's watching over me".

"Sparrow Twins" by e3000

5 comments:

Roger, Tiffany & Michael said...

Oh my goodness Amy, I will be praying that everything is okay. I know the waiting to hear is the worst part, hang in there and let me know as soon as you hear anything.

Sharon/mom said...

My sweet amy, I hope things turn out well, I will pray for you! I have been fortunate in that area, my pregancies all went full term. If it does work out, twins!!! I hear it's fun once the first parts over. Megan had two miscarrages, it has made her afraid she wont' have kids, but I think she will. I love you!! And yes it would have not been nice to tell your families!!!! My sister waited 6 months once and it really hurt my parents.

Cassadie said...

I just got chills reading your post because the same thing happened to me with Jack. He is obviously fine, but it was so scary. I believe it was 6 weeks and 2 days when we had that ultrasound. We went back the next week and saw the heartbeat. I'll never forget that moment. I'll be thinking good thoughts for you...

Kolter & Lindsey said...

We are praying for you!!!!

Rebecca said...

Again, so sorry. Of course you WANT them. What I silly thing for people to not understand. I will pray for you. I thought your "WW is not working," was a very funny idea. Love, you.